But then sometimes when I'm feeling so tired, my mom has to tell me to clean. I sweep the floor, when these windows get dirty I have to wipe them and also those appliances. And then I always wash the dishes at night except when I have homework and also cooking rice. Although Kelvin had the option of rebelling against his mother's instructions, he chose to comply and. He helped his mother even when he was tired as he was worried about her slipped disc injury sustained while working overseas. He was intent on ensuring that his mother had a relatively relaxing time whilst recuperating at home.
Nonetheless, he was still relieved that the start of school had given him a legitimate excuse to stop doing household chores, and therefore avoiding an open confrontation with his mother. Besides doing what was asked of them, children also played a role in re stitching familial relationships now that the migrant has returned. Their actions and thoughts were exemplified by Kelvin's sharing, I don't go out that much anymore like when she's [mother] not here. No, [it's not a sacrifice].
More children than ever are facing life without one or both parents. Absentee parent questions rank among the top parent and guardian concerns – until now. More children than ever are facing life without one or both parents. Absentee parent questions rank among the top parent and guardian concerns, until now.
I want to stay at home. Sometimes we go to SM [the mall].
So I would like them to have some bonding time … It could be for a year or two? Many children further recognised that parental migration and return had a positive effect on their personal growth. I help my siblings in taking a bath.
For Kelvin, his mother's absence reminded him that he should learn independence and start preparing for the day he should leave his parent's nest, So for me, I also have to learn them [housework]. I have to learn those, so when time comes, I would be able to help. And also I need to learn those because my mother and father will not always be there for me.
Because maybe when I go to college, when I go to a far place, school that is far from our house, I have to rent an apartment. So I know how to do those stuff [ sic ]. In a small minority of cases under five in our study, children felt that they were no longer able to cope with the rupturing effects of their migrant parents' absence and grew insistent that they returned. Jade—a special needs child—might not have fully understood the multiple ruptures occurring in her family during her mother's absence.
Jade personally had to stop school as there was no adult to take her there. Grandfather is sick! Children's ability to articulate their expectations of their parents also changed over time and growth. My visa was not finished yet, it also depends on my contract.
Describing the hardships he endured when his mother migrated, It's hard because you need money and that's always insufficient. And because there were some debts left so when someone comes [to demand payment], I'm the one who has to face them … sometimes they [migrant parents] can't send money, so it's hard. In his view, dissociating himself from the comings and goings of his migrant parents had become his best protection against further ruptures in his life. She asks me to finish my meal. She pinches me … my ear.
If her children make a little mistake, they will be pinched … they fight their mother, something like that … [But when the mother is away] they have never been beaten … it is not permitted. He confessed that he did not miss his mother and hoped that she would remain a migrant as long as possible so that he could continue escaping direct contact with her.
In some cases, migration amplified existing tensions in the parental care relationships. The happiness of having a parent home might be eclipsed by feelings of resentment over these unresolved tensions. The results of their actions may also not be immediate but only becoming evident several years down the road. Children's actions may also contribute to either closing or furthering ruptures that have emerged during the parent's absence in the course of migration.
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Abstract Children—whether left behind or as migrants—have remained largely invisible in Southeast Asian migration scholarship. His birth father was not mentioned during the interview. Experiences of family ruptures are thus not gender specific.
Ansell, N. Childhood and the politics of scale: Descaling children's geographies? Of those, 4 were excluded because they failed to answer the attention-check question, and 49 were excluded because they spent less than five minutes taking the survey see Appendix B for an alternative analysis that includes data from these participants. The remaining participants contributed data to the analysis. This experiment followed the basic design for the series. Each participant first answered the demographic questions and then read five vignettes in random order.
See Appendix A for full text of vignettes. Estimates of risk were high overall. The mean estimate of risk across all situations on a scale of 1—10 was 6. See Table 3 for pairwise comparisons.
Of those, 9 were excluded because they failed to answer the attention-check question, and 55 were excluded because they spent less than five minutes taking the survey see Appendix B for an alternative analysis that includes data from these participants. In this experiment, the parent described in the vignettes was a father instead of a mother. Otherwise, the design was identical to Experiment 1.
The pattern of responses was similar to Experiment 1. The mean estimate of risk across all situations was 7.
Specifically, children were seen as less at risk when fathers left unintentionally than when fathers left to pursue an affair, volunteer for charity or relax. See Table 4 for pairwise comparisons. Of those, 15 were excluded because they failed to answer the attention-check question, and 64 were excluded because they spent less than five minutes taking the survey see Appendix B for an alternative analysis that includes data from these participants. In this experiment, the ages of the mothers described in the vignettes was lower by 10 years, and the mothers held lower-paying jobs e.
Otherwise the design was identical to Experiment 1.